interview with male victim of child abuse

Kelava, Nanko, interviewee and victim of child abuse. 21 November 2009

Nanko is a 33 years old male from Serbia who experienced child neglect and abandonment in his childhood, but the reason I chose to use his interview in my paper is a different one. He also has a 6 years old son who he cant’s see or be part of his life (because his son is back in Serbia and Nanko immigrated in America a year ago), but his son is experiencing physical child abuse and neglect and his father is not doing anything about it.
1. Have you experienced abuse or neglect in your childhood?
Yes, I have. My parents did not care much about me I guess their parents did not care much for them. Sometimes I felt more like a burden then a child who's supposed to be loved by my parents.
2. If yes, how did affect u then and how it affects you now?
Back then, it did not affect me so much because I thought that it is supposed to be like that but as I was growing up, I saw that it's not. How does it affect me now?.... I hardly ever talk to my dad (mom died).
3. You are a parent now. Have you abused/neglect your child?
I did neglect my child, not so much abuse.
4. If yes, why?
Not sure .Maybe because it all happened when I was too young and had a child with a woman I did not even like. Not having a steady job, no money and constant fighting with her just puts a child in…I think all of that just puts a child in another plan.
5. Do you think that because you were abused as a child, you became an abusive/neglective parent?
No. I think that for all the reasons above I neglected my kid. When your life is not going the way you want it to go, not even close and you have millions of problems somehow you just put a child in another plan. Not intentionally but you do.