oral history

Oral History

           

 

I did my oral history project on my friend Eric whose dad is dyeing from cancer. My first question I asked him was, “what is the relationship with your dad right now?” He responded, “That he has a great relationship, and his father and him are very close with each other, Eric tells him everything that is going on in his life. He has a better relationship with his dad than he does with his mom.” The second question I asked him was, “How did you feel when you found out that your dad has cancer?” He responded, “He was very upset and he felt like his whole world was going to end, and he felt very depressed about the whole situation.” The next question I had for him was, “After you found out your dad has cancer did the relationship with your father change and did you think different about him?” He said, “Yes, my dad and I are a lot closer then we were before, I go and visit him a lot more often then I did before. And I listen to his advice more, I just don’t think that I am right and he is wrong.” The next question was, “How are you coping with his cancer?” “I am really having a lot of trouble coping with it. I try to go out as much as possible, to keep my mind off of it because he really doesn’t have much time left, on this planet.” “Do you think you have changed as a person, emotionally, physically, and mentally?” “Yes I believe so; I do a lot more stupid thing with my life, like drink a lot more and just hook up with different people. I am more depressed than usually, that’s why I feel like drinking all the time, spending money at the bars, and casino. Also I feel angry all the time. I just really can’t get over it. I just really can’t express my feeling about it. I keep pushing away my friends and girls, I just feel that no one knows what I am going through, I can’t talk to any one about it. Even you can’t understand Becks.” “Do you wish that you could go back in time and take back or change anything in your relationship with your dad, now that you know about the cancer?” “Yes, a while back not to long ago he and I got into a huge fight and I told him I hated him, and that made him really stressed out. And I almost feel like I made the cancer stronger with stressing him out so much. And then when I was younger I ran away from home for about a week and a half, which also stressed him out. So much that he got stomach ulcers.” So tat the end of the interview, I really could tell that this horrible situation really taking a toll on him all around. And he asked me to stop the questions, so I stopped.